What does it mean to be happy? Does it mean you need to be smiling all the time? Does it mean you have to be bubbling like a glass of champagne? I sure as heck know that I can be grumpy, look grumpy, sound grumpy, but still be happy. I don’t have a bubbly personality, sometimes I wish I did, but I don’t. I’m a little more of a “keep to myself” kind of girl but still happy. I can be having the worst day ever, but I would still say I was happy. I may not believe at a low point that I am happy, but I deep down know that I am.
Don’t let other people try to convince you that you’re not happy.
How the heck would they know? Are they attached at your hip 24/7? Do they see your highs? Probably not. They probably see you when you have a big fat mustard stain on your shirt, and your hair is day three on strike from the shower. It’s so easy to label people and try to tell them who THEY are. Not our job, (unless you’re a therapist and are getting paid to tell people they are unhappy, but even then, you would know about them on a personal level) We shouldn’t try and label each other, because we may just start believing it. Which can lead to insecurities and maybe even depression?
So what does it mean to be happy? For me it means being with my kids, having a clean house, waking up breathing, being in the sun, Christmas (NO this isn’t a tinder account description). Opening the fridge and seeing the food inside makes me happy. Having a home, vehicle, and good health makes me super happy. Happiness to me means freedom because right now we have it. Some countries don’t. Some women have no power, no say, no options. I am lucky enough to have those, and that darn well puts a smile on my face! What makes you happy? Focus on those things, and keep reminding yourself of those things. This is part of our “Let’s HAVE A POSITIVE 2018” challenge. Spend a day focusing on joyful times. Past or present.
I also know that not everyone is happy. It would be crazy of me to tell you everyone is happy. I have been at very low points where I can say I wasn’t happy, but WE have the ABILITY to take CONTROL of our lives and change it around. We have control of our emotions. We are able to turn our unhappiness around. Don’t let people tell you that you’re unhappy!! YOU and only YOU know what you are. We’ve got to start with ourselves, working on the inside.